It all started on Sunday. I was debating whether to even go to church at all. I had decided to take mom to Wine in the Woods. Going to church that day meant I would have to go to the 8:00 am service, a time when I usually enjoy sleeping in. But I, we, pulled it together and got there (not too late). I was so glad that I did. I felt like the whole service spoke to me. It began by having a skit portraying a single, 35 year old black woman, who is single and wondering if she is being punished by God. I am in that boat. And so are a lot of my friends.
The sermon was outstanding. Pastor Dan Taylor weaved his theology background with his dry sense of humor to produce a clear and on point message. Basically, he said that God is training us to be strong. He cautioned that we cannot run away from this training no matter how painful and uncomfortable that it may be. Instead we have to figure out what God is trying to do and learn from the lessons that he is trying to teach us. Powerful stuff right?
Monday I received another sign. The weather was beautiful and I was driving with the windows rolled down. I felt so incredibility grateful, happy, and calm. I even had happy tears developing in my eyes. I just had a feeling like everything was going to be ok. But I also had an overwhelming feeling that I needed to be still. I felt like there was something I needed to learn right away. It felt as if there was a moment that I could not miss. So I drove immediately to the christian book store. I bought a book called "When Women Walk Alone: Finding Strength & Hope Through the Seasons of Life" by Cindi McMenamin.
Before you get the wrong impression this book is not supposed to be a how to find a man guide. The book is not necessarily referring to the loneliness of being single. While that is one reference it is more of a general feeling. You can be married and feel alone. You can be in a room full of people and feel alone. Sometimes you can feel alone just because you feel as if no one understands what you are going through. Or you can also just feel alone because you are not dating anyone. I have felt a few of these feelings Shoot, I am feeling a few of these feelings now. But the point of the book is not to figure out how to get out of your lonely place, but instead to embrace it. It is in our deserts that God is looking for us to pay attention.
All of these signs softened the blow of my job rejection. I honestly feel like I am in a position where God is doing some great things in me. I feel myself growing spiritually but as a person as well. I am trying harder than I ever have to lean in and figure out what God has in store for me. I might not have gotten the job that I felt would answer all my problems but I feel as if I am one step closer to where God wants me to be. And although that means I remain in limbo, it means I am uncertain of my future, I feel like this thing I am feeling right now is more important that all of that combined. You'll see :)