Despite it being one of my goals this year to have a hands off approach to other people's problems, I have still been able to act as a confidante to my friends. The difference now is that I feel like I have tried to insert my opinion less, listen more, and let people come to the their own conclusions and decisions. It has been a great exercise for me in restraint. And despite how much I fancy my own opinions, they are not always necessary (except for this blog lol).
There is something else that I have realized in the new year, that is that 2013 = new attitude. What does this new attitude consist of? No more game playing, no more indirect suggestions, and no more putting up with less than we deserve. Having a new attitude this year means that we are honest with ourselves and how we handle situations. I preface this by saying that I am a work in progress myself, but I have said for years that we cannot change others, we can only change how we choose to deal with our situations.
I have so many friends who I consider to be such strong women. We have to see our worth, own it, and let no one take it away from us. In a practical application this means that if something that someone said or did bothered you speak up. If someone is not respecting you, your time, or your beliefs move on. Don't sink down to their level and ignore them or play games. Also sometimes it might mean accepting the reality that despite how much we would like to have what we want, that perhaps it is not for us to have.
With all of this being said, a new attitude does not equate to having an attitude. At church a couple of weeks ago the sermon topic was about power of the tongue. What we say and how we say it has the ability to affect not only ourselves but others. One can be assertive without cursing others. You can express your thoughts and feelings without name calling.
So if you haven't added a new attitude to your list of 2013 goals do it now and let me know how it turns out!